Admittedly, it comes a little late. I wish that we had been supplied this information earlier. Perhaps, we could have saved our daughter copious amounts of pain and agony at the hands of the school personnel that were entrusted with her education and well-being during the day. However, this new information leaves me feeling validated in our decision to pull her from the school. It also supports our belief that our daughter was telling us the truth when she admitted to the things she was guilty of and denied other things. Continue reading
Today as part of the switch to homeschooling, my husband went to pick up our daughter’s stuff from school. I requested all of her work to see why they graded it all as a fail.
The teacher used her incomplete work from class instead of all the work my daughter and I spent a week pushing through. A week of pure torture. A week of coming home from school, getting immediately to work, and working until about an hour past bedtime to get done.
The items I wrote notes on are in there. They are in there as duplicates of the poorly graded pages. It’s about the only proof I have that she did what she did.
What I can’t understand is why. Why would she do this? Why would a teacher want to refuse to grade the work she sent home? Was I not supposed to do it? Was I supposed to fail, therefore causing my daughter to fail? What kind of person is she? I am so angry right now. But, at least I now know for sure that we made the right decision returning to homeschooling.
The school isn’t finished with us yet. Today, we got a visit from child protective services. This is the second time this school year that the school has called CPS on us. The worker was really nice. And we know that we are great parents. But, CPS’s time would be better spent on children who need their help. There is nothing illegal (or child abuse) about choosing to homeschool. In this case, it would be far more abuse of our child to allow her to continue to go to this school.
We ordered new cirriculum books. They should be here in a couple of weeks. In the meantime, I still have stacks of work that they sent home that we couldn’t finish in the week time frame that was given to us. We are working on writing and reading and just trying to pull together schoolwork until the books arrive.
Onward to our next homeschooling adventure! Wish us luck.
Some good, some bad. But narcissist is a new one.
That’s what the newest comment from that “parent” called me. Am I a narcissist for expecting them to follow the law? For thinking that my daughter’s disability should never be used as a weapon against her?
Yes, it is true that my daughter has lashed out during high anxiety situations, and I do feel bad for the kids that have been hurt in the process. However, instead of attacking the child whose anxiety was so great she felt the need to protect herself no matter the cost, perhaps you should be angry that the staff at your child’s school pushed her into such high anxiety that she resorted to defending herself.
I have repeatedly attempted to work with that staff to stop pushing my daughter into high anxiety situations. I have repeatedly offered advice and helpful information. This information has included both my own experiences and articles written by some top professionals in the field.
You are correct, I don’t share everything on this blog, but it is not for narcissistic reasons. However, I have not said that my child is innocent. If you truly read my blog, you would see that I do admit that she has hurt people when her anxiety is up. I don’t deny that it is a problem. (However, your allegation has never been reported to me or documented in her discipline records) What I said is that the law is clear and they have to use supports and accommodations to help her (and all the children in her class) to be successful.
Sadly, it seems to me that I am doing more to protect your child than you are. Good luck to you and yours. My conscience is clear.
Apparently, the school has taken it upon themselves to share personally identifiable information about our daughter and her family. We are being harassed in our home. And now, they may have come to my blog. My blog where I do not identify my daughter, my location, or the school that was bullying her.
While I will not allow the comment to stay on my blog, I will address some things that the “parent” posted in their comment. Continue reading
Sorry I haven’t posted in a while guys. This week has been a lot of stress and frustration. Once again, I signed the REED for them to restart testing and observation to determine if our daughter is eligible for special education services, and immediately things have gone straight to hell again.
I spent the week from Halloween through Thursday attempting to help my daughter complete a month’s worth of work in a week because they have been removing her from class so much that she fell way behind. It had to all be turned in by Friday because it was the end of the marking period. (Side note: the parent portal shows only a single thing my daughter has done all year has been graded, and that was the first week of September)
They also were finally sending home work she had missed in class while they continue to remove her from class. She ended up ahead of them. So, then she’s in trouble for having nothing to do while the class is working on things she did at home with me. Punish her for that. Then, they are finally checking the papers she did at home with me, and she was not allowed. Punish her for that, too.
Friday, they had an assembly scheduled for the afternoon. During math, they were finally checking 3-2 (which she already turned in to her teacher) and they won’t give her back her paper and let her check it. Instead, they send her out in the hall to work on a new copy of it. She says she wants to be in class. They remove her to the office and call me to come get her because she obviously can’t ride the bus. She is calmly stating she just wants to go to class and work on what everyone else is working on.
By the time we get there to pick her up, they’ve added more to the allegations. Here’s their newest MO. They are making up lies about my child. How do I know they’re lies? My daughter admits to the things she does. She doesn’t have a history of lying to me. They do.
It’s like they think just because they are the grown ups in the situation people automatically have to believe them. Adults lie far more than kids do in my experience. Plus, they are using some of the same lies that the previous school (still under investigation by the OCR) had concocted. Thing is, CPS and the local police department proved that they were lies. That’s not in the school record they obtained (through illegal forging of my signature). Those lies are why we refused to sign a release of records.
This time while on speaker phone listening to my daughter tell me what happened as the principal is telling a story that changed every time she was interrupted, I finally flat out said that I’m going to believe the one that doesn’t have a history of lying to me. The principal says simply “I understand that.” Then proceeds to accuse me of refusing all supports they have tried to put into place. I asked what supports they have offered and she says “now is not the time to discuss that.”
My daughter continues to say that she just wants to be in class. She continues to tell me that she was removed from class for “walks” or to go in the “blue room” for no reason. She continues to report that she feels like she is hardly ever in class.
These things were not happening during the first weeks of school when she was just a general ed student with GAD. These things also were not happening during the week that I had revoked permissions and said she was just a 504 student.
You tell me, is it related? Does allowing them to label her put a target on her back? It sure feels that way. We have another meeting on Wednesday. A manifestation determination. I’ve been requesting one for weeks. She only spent maybe a week total throughout the month of October actually in class, and only a couple days more than that in school.
We tell them repeatedly that segregating her out is a trigger that raises her anxiety. So, they separate her out and then punish her for having an anxiety outburst which then causes more anxiety and causes her to have an anxiety meltdown which results in bigger punishments. When they can’t find something to punish her for, they make something up.
Is our public school system broken? I ask because we’ve been to numerous schools throughout the years with both of our special needs children, and the experience is always the same. Do whatever it takes to keep these children out of the classroom. No qualms about lying or trumping things up.
The other morning, she got on the bus to discover the dean of students is sitting in the seat across from hers. She takes her seat, presses up against the window and places her backpack over her head like a barrier between him and her, and looks at me through the window with a look of absolute fear on her face. That fear speaks volumes to me.
Intimidation is a form of bullying.
Intimidation bullying refers to any gesture that interferes or disrupts a child’s freedom to coexist with peers. ~nobullying.com
So is slander.
Social or relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes: Ostracising or leaving another out purposely ~nobullying.com
All over the web, parents can find resources on talking to staff if another student is bullying their child. What if the staff is the bullies? What if administration is working together to bully a student out of school? In our case, it has happened in the past. We were honest and up front about how we ended up homeschooling. We wanted them to understand why school causes such high anxiety levels for our daughter. We wanted them to show her that school could be a safe place. We wanted them to help reduce that anxiety. Instead, they seem to be trying to do the exact same thing. AND, thanks to the illegally obtained records, they have a blueprint to do it.
So, I apologize that I’m not posting as often as I’d like to be. I’m also not getting any actual work done lately. Instead, I spend my days watching my phone, waiting for it to ring, and constantly checking my emails for updates from the school.